The Importance of Realistic Expectations: Why Teens Should Not Romanticize Adulthood

 Adolescence is a time filled with dreams, aspirations, and the desire for independence. And I am sure a dozen teens out there eagerly anticipate the day when they will finally enter adulthood and embrace the freedoms and privileges it promises. 

However, i will be point blank honest with you, adulthood like Nigerians would say, is a scam.

The media, shows and all forms of online presence has made adulthood seem like the time where you have all the freedom you want.

I'm an adult and I'll be honest 

It's all a lie.

I believe it is crucial for teens to develop realistic expectations about what lies ahead.

In this article, I will explore the reasons why teenagers should approach adulthood with a balanced perspective, emphasising the importance of setting realistic goals and preparing for the challenges that come with growing up.

1.Idealised Expectations.

When I was a teen, i often idealised adulthood, envisioning a life free from restrictions, responsibilities, and the guidance of parents. I'll never have to listen to anyone tell me what to do and I'll live my life just the way i want….

That was the thought I used to have.

However, the reality of adulthood is far more complex.

In truth, adulthood comes with its fair share of responsibilities, such as paying bills, managing finances, maintaining relationships, and making difficult choices. Romanticizing adulthood can lead to a rude awakening (like I experienced) when teens realise that the day-to-day realities are not as glamorous as they imagined.

2. Financial Realities 

Now that I am in my twenties, I wish I seized all the opportunities I had back when I was a teen, to save.

One aspect often overlooked by teenagers is the financial burden that adulthood brings. When I was a teen, I used to focus on the ability to buy whatever I want without considering the need for financial stability. The pressures of finding a stable job, paying bills, and managing expenses can be overwhelming(and still is)

I look back when I dreamed of the day that I would be out of my parents house, living my life, driving my own car(I have none of that lol) and I realised how negligent I was towards how I would get that money to buy what I want.

You did too, didn't you, bestie?

It is crucial for teenagers to understand the importance of financial planning and the challenges of achieving financial independence. Realistic expectations about the need for budgeting, saving, and managing debts can help teens develop responsible financial habits from an early age (something I have to pay for now)

3. Emotional and Mental Well-being 

If anyone told me there will be times I would break down and just cry because I am just tired of something or everything, I would tell them to have their eyes checked.

Because I'm a strong girl, I can't cry for absolutely no reason.

Well I did….

And it felt great.

It didn't solve the problem but I felt good afterwards.

The pressure to achieve unrealistic goals and meet societal expectations can lead to anxiety, stress, and a sense of inadequacy..

By understanding that adulthood is a continuous learning process, teens can develop resilience and cope better with challenges. It is crucial to promote a realistic view of adulthood that acknowledges both the triumphs and the setbacks, encouraging teenagers to focus on personal growth rather than striving for an unattainable ideal.

4. Enjoying the Present:

While it is essential for teens to plan for the future and set goals, it is equally important for them to enjoy the present and embrace the unique experiences of adolescence. 

I wish I spent half the time I had to visualise what I would be as an adult, to plan my finances, set realistic goals and get a realistic view of life and its setbacks.

I wish I had the opportunity to build friendships, explore new hobbies, go out with family when i was a kid.

These experiences contribute to personal growth and provide a solid foundation for adulthood.

In conclusion, I would say, encouraging a healthy transition to adulthood will ultimately contribute to the overall well-being and success in the lives of teens.

Enjoy the moment, don't rush anything. You don't have bills to settle nor do you have to deal with setbacks in relationship, overall frustration of having to deal with life on your own. 

You got your parents to worry about the essentials, enjoy that.

Remember, every moment counts.

Till next time.

Stay safe and blessed.